![]() On Nancy’s birthday, Chet and Nathalie at ages 6 and 3 respectively, made Nancy dinner as a present. Despite his younger sister’s alliance with his mother, Chet felt protective of her at a young age. He learned from that moment onward not to speak back – on his own behalf – to Nancy because her retaliations felt unsurvivable.Ĭhet recalls one noble act that likely sealed his fate as the child to be scapegoated. Chet you sit there.” Chet recalled feeling a searing jolt of shame and wanting to crawl out of his skin. Come on Nathalie, we’re going to the car. She bit off these words in a low barking tone: “How dare you say that I boss you around?! After all that I do for you and this is how you thank me? You are a selfish, mean little brat. His sharp mind thought he’d fashioned the right response so when he got back to their table he said, “I can’t wait til I grow up and can boss people around.” Nancy responded by snarling and squinting her eyes with a black look of murderousness. Chet remembered feeling enfuriated at her entitlement to his servitude and knew he had to protest but in a delicate way. After they finished eating their happy meals his mother curtly told him “Throw this away” referring to the whole table’s trash. He recalled one episode at age 5 when he went to MacDonald’s with his mother and sister. She bossed him around to do chores for as long as he could remember. Anything to keep him off-balance within himself. In therapy, Chet recalled his mother criticizing him incessantly for eating too fast, picking his nose, not using correct table manners, leaving his toys out, and so on. The arrival of Chet’s younger sister signalled a ratcheting up of Nancy’s scapegoating of him. Three years later she gave birth to a daughter – Nathalie – who was much more compliant and admiring towards Nancy. Her son – Chet – was willful, loving, good-hearted, playful and tough. She decided that she wanted to be a mother and gave birth to a son. His response was to grow more accomodating and ingratiating to her. She would yell at her husband nightly that he was not communicating enough with her. She married a man who was passive in their relationship and quickly set about triangulating with her ex-boyfriend. In relationships, she ensnared men into taking care of her monetarily and emotionally while complaining that they never appreciated all that she does for them. She transferred to a different school district and was able to continue her clandestine cruelty against new students. At one point her principal brought her up on disciplinary charges for “mistreating” one of her students. Meanwhile she would select one student in each of her classes to harass, control, and undermine. She became a special education teacher after college and curated an image of a nurturing, patient and kind woman. Her face turned to a snarl and she screamed at him for breaking it. Her younger brother one time accidentally broke a ceramic doll of hers and was bleeding profusely. She told her classmates in fourth grade that she had cancer “to get attention”. ![]() His mother, Nancy, seemed to have cruelty in her heart from an early age.
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